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Thursday, 22 January 2009

says this is bullshit.

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And so do I.

So here is my opinion and comments on the article (in order, so you'd know which point I'm talking about) if I'm a stay home wife:

A good wife's guide

I agree. But don't need to exaggerate until think of what to eat the day before. And what about my needs? Will he think about what to give me the night before too? Everyday?
Prepare myself - rest and refresh sounds nice enough. But "He had just been with a lot of weary looking people" so, I've to look pretty coz he won't need to look at my tired face? Why? Would he love me any less then?
It's my duties to uplift him from his boring day. So what about my boring day of work at home? Cleaning the house, cooking and taking care of the kids can only be exciting to a certain extend. Do you think waking up to feed, clean, play, (teach), put to sleep the baby, then feed, clean put to sleep and then go to bed waking up the next day doing the same bloody thing isn't boring?
Yeah, am I the maid or the wife? Wait, or wives are known as free maid?
(same as above statement)
"Catering for his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction." Wow... his comfort is my personal satisfaction? This is so wrong. Just so wrong.
Children are little treasures. What is a wife then? And the household world have to be put on a hold just because the king of the family is back? And how do you exactly stop the kids from making noise? One of the time they are shouting and all is when they see their father comes home and gets excited. Do you want me to put a handkerchief in their mouth so that wouldn't make a sound when the guy comes back from work?
For once, I agree. "Be happy to see him" sounds very reasonable enough.
"Show sincerity in your desire to please him" So when is his turn to please me?
"His topic of conversations are more important than yours" Yea, right. If there's an emergency like the kitchen caught fire, I'd still have to wait and listen until he finish his topics only I'd tell him that we need to call the fire department to put out the fire? Is his topic more important anymore (after example given)? Where do you draw the line? So, now there are exceptions?
Because his world of strain and pressure and his need to come home and relax, I cannot complain if he comes home late or goes out to dinner or other entertainment places without me?
My goal is not all about the guy. Period.
I believe that works both ways.
What about what I've gone through the whole day (assuming that I'd prepared the whole damn house for the guy to come back)?
So I have a cold glass in one hand and a warm glass of water in the other hand, walk up to him and say "Your Majesty, cold or warm water?"
Offer to take off his shoes? He's not paralysed or dysfunctional you know.
The ultimate disagreement I have is "You have no rights to question his decisions" coz I will question whatever damn thing I need to know. I will not respect the guy if he don't respect me.
"A good wife always knows her place" Oh, I know my place in this world, and it's not what this article is referring to.